Written by Hubert Odias

The total disregard of most women for virtue, love and respect in relationships and marriages defies every matrimonial principle. As we all know, it takes two to tangle, but this article is focusing solely on women’s share of the problem.

The misfortune of some men in the hands of their women along with some deliberate statements of three women described below has prompted me to write this article. Those women have a bizarre concept about relationships: no love and no respect. Their renunciation of these two key factors in a union symbolizes a rebellion against moral values.

Those women may label their defiance as emancipation, but it’s rather a foolish behavior that puts a stain on the sacredness of marriage. In that context, everything is at stake. They take advantage of their men, sometimes violently; they bluff and play vicious games under the pretense of love. They boldly make their weird feelings known.

One day I came across a Haitian lady who was in her late 20s. Suddenly, she asked me: are you married? I responded no; I am divorced. Then, she warned me: Beware, sir! If you want to get remarried, just take a woman, but don’t expect to find love, respect and virtue. That’s archaic. I said: well, that’s your personal opinion. Raising her voice with confidence, she said that she was speaking on behalf of all women. Wow! I was stunned.

The other woman is a 50-year-old co-worker. In the course of our conversation, we ended up talking about the problems with relationships and marriages. The lady shocked me when she confessed that she has no love to give to a man, meaning no feelings whether she is married or gets involved in a relationship. Her bizarre statement bewildered me.

My state of bewilderment drove me to ask a few questions to the lady so I could infiltrate her mindset and get the gist of her narrative. Then, I said: lady, suppose a very good man falls in love for you, what would it take for you to love that man? She responded as if she was kind of angry: that man must give me a brand new car, a nice house and a lot of money.

The other question I asked her was this: in a relationship, it’s give-and-take. Suppose your dream comes true, and you get everything you asked of your man. In return, what would you bring to the table? Not expecting this question from me, the lady paused for a few seconds and said: Hubert, listen, the “apple” of a woman is precious and expensive. In total amazement and disbelief, I said to myself: Hm! Really?

Still in a state of shock and, this time, with a sense of humor, I asked her: how about the “banana” of a man? Is it worth anything? With a grim face, she stared at me speechlessly. Again this 50-year-old claimed she was the voice of all women.

On a personal note, this is about my ex-Jezebel. Her periodic drama consisted of vilifying me. One day, I tried to reason with her by referring to the bible verse that says women must respect and obey their husbands and vice-versa. With much audacity, she ridiculed me and dismissed my statement as old-fashioned.

Also, with arrogance and pride, she added: Hubert, I have no reason to respect you because we both work and sometimes I make more money than you. According to her, respect in matrimony is no longer based on the sacred oath of marriage but on what and how much capital the man earns and possesses.

The behavior of those three women is a disgrace. In reality, they do speak for many of their species. It’s condescending for those women as to the choice they make and the way they describe their infamous characters and their perception about relationships. The strange reality for them is that materialism and love fantasy supersede virtue. “There is nothing new under the sun.” Those women are, in action, the reincarnation of Jezebel and Delilah (in the bible).

Women, don’t be angry with me for the things I say. Please note that this is not a case of misogyny or generalization of a gender. To almost every rule, there is an exception. As we all know, there still exist today some ideal women, but they are so few in number that they remain obscured or simply lost in the overwhelming multitude of bad women. Those highly prized women are “like a needle in a haystack.”

In their relationships or marriages, those remarkable women “stick through thick and thin and till death do them part.” To them I take my hat off. Proverbs 31 verses 10 & 11 explain it even better: “a good woman is hard to find and worth more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve and never has reason to regret it.”

Meanwhile a national survey in the United States describes many causes of divorce as a lack of commitment, constant arguing or conflict, infidelity, domestic violence and financial problems, etc. Also, according to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher, with approximately 60-67% of second marriages ending in divorce

The relationships of those three women and others alike are always built on shaky ground. So children always pay a heavy price. Based on a report, while most children in two-parent households grow up to be well-adjusted adults, kids from single-parent families are more likely to face emotional and behavioral health challenges, like aggression or engaging in high-risk behaviors, compared to peers raised by married parents.

Those three women and their peers are all players, egocentric and opportunist. As such, they use deceitful tactics in the name of love to abuse and exploit their partners. Their ultimate goal is deception, defiance and a so-called revolution that aims at undoing decency and tradition. In the meantime, they remain oblivious to the societal impacts of their actions.

“There is no worse evil than a bad woman; and nothing has ever been produced better than a good one,” Euripides.